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EXAMPLE I had a bright idea." "The future looks dim" "All I get is static from
him." "She is a warm person and I tingle all over just thinking about her."
2. Practice eliciting Submodalities - do contrastive analysis on other's experience.
3. Spend time making pictures, paying attention to internal sounds and internal feelings.
Devote five to 15 minutes a day.
4. Each day spend specific time practicing associating into pleasant experiences and
dissociating from unpleasant ones. This is tremendously valuable skill and you will
want to master it so that your brain will automatically do it for you. You can use the
Circle of Excellence if you want.
5. Practice the Swish Pattern and Belief Change (see later in the manual) with yourself
or others. Remember to pick minor problems and goals to start with so that you can
"wire in the pattern before moving on to larger issues.
6. Practice Anchoring positive responses from others and yourself. Choose visual
Anchors one day, kinesthetic Anchors the next day, and auditory Anchors the
following day. Practice using precision when you set Anchors.
Introduction To NLP Techniques For Personal Change
Submodalities are not an NLP technique. Submodalities are what is used and affected
when NLP techniques are applied. Submodalities are how we, as human beings structure
our experience. It is the coding system of the brain that lets us know the difference
between states and experiences, whether we are happy or depressed, procrastinating or
motivated, attracted or not. Submodalities are what makes up subjective human
experience.
Since many Submodalities seem to affect most people the same way, we have made
generalizations concerning them, i.e. making something brighter intensifies the feeling.
It's important, however to realize that everyone has their own unique coding system, and
whenever something seems to be an absolute, it's not.
Generalizations are an important part of the learning process. They are also the biggest
stumbling block. True elegance in NLP is one's ability to observe, elicit information and
test what seems to be true until a result occurs... hopefully, it will be the result you
wanted. If what you end up with is not what you wanted, find another way, a new twist or
perhaps some technique that you are not yet aware of.
Remember If what you are doing Isn't working, do anything else!
Many of the interventions on the following pages represent useful techniques that have
been developed using the NLP Submodality technology. It is important to keep in mind
that the field of NLP is NOT a set of techniques. NLP is an attitude and a methodology
that leaves behind a trail of techniques.
Much of NLP is taught as a set of techniques simply because the techniques can be
extremely powerful ways to effect change in people. The problem is that if you only know
the techniques, then you won't know what do when unexpected situations come up. For
example, since the NLP Phobia Cure relies on the person making pictures in their mind,
ask yourself the question, "How do I work with a person who has a phobia of making
pictures?"
Remember: The person with the most flexibility (the person who understand the
methodology, not just the techniques) in any given situation is the person who wins.
The NLP attitude is one of wanton curiosity and tenacity. The technology would not exist
today if the developers did not possess a wildly curious and tenacious attitude. In the
same sense, NLP becomes lifeless, cold, and less effective when separated from this
attitude. Life becomes more fun and pleasurable when you begin to adopt a curiosity and
tenacity that propels you into the future. The NLP Practitioner has the flexibility to notice
when what they are doing isn't working and the tenacity do anything else until they
achieve their outcome.
The methodology of NLP is the "how": how to get from point A to point B. The NLP
practitioner does not want to know why a chocolate cake is chocolate. And s/he doesn't
want to know why someone has a phobia. The question "why" will give you the least
useful information. You want to know how the cake is made and how the person is able
to make themselves terrified. This information is useful because you can then use it to
help the person achieve their outcome. The NLP practitioner has the curiosity to find out
what ingredients went into the cake so that they can duplicate it or change it. Also, you
want to know how to work backwards in case someone has a secret recipe.
The Resource Triangle
The Resource Triangle is NLP in a nutshell. It is the basis for all the NLP techniques. If
you learn only one technique in NLP, learn this one. You can basically make up your own
techniques when you follow this as the basic model.
1. Identify a "stuck state. A stuck state is an un-resourceful state or problem state
where you feel less-than-glorious.
2. Get three cards or sheets of paper. Write the letter S (for Stuck
State) on one card. On the other, write the letter D (for
D
Disassociated), and the third card, write the letter R (for
Resource). Place the cards on the floor in a triangle.
R
S
3. Briefly, step onto the "S" or Stuck State card and associate into
the stuck state, but only for a brief second or two.
4. Disassociate from the problem state and step onto the " "D" card, leaving all those
feelings over there (point to the "S" card).
5. While still remaining on the "D" card, turn and look toward the "R" card. Identify a
resource that would be appropriate to the problem. For example, choose humor,
confidence, playfulness, curiosity, etc. See the resource over there (point tot he "R"
card). See the "younger you".
6. Look over at the resource card and know that in a minute you are going to step onto
that card and fully associate into that resource. Now, step onto the "R" card and
wrap the resource around you fully. Feel all the feelings, see what you were seeing
at the time, hear what you were hearing at the time. Feel this state in your entire
body.
7. When you have completely associated into the resource, step onto the "S" card and
step into the problem state, taking all these positive feelings with you. Take a
moment and let this integrate.
8. Step outside the triangle. Take a deep breath and notice how the problem is
different. What new solutions are now available to you that were not available
before? What is new?
Note: If needed, you can repeat the exercise. It is very important to build a very powerful
resource -- one that is more powerful than the stuck state, so that it even makes the stuck
state seem wimpy when compared with the resource. If needed, stack a few resource
states together under one anchor so that the resource state is very intense.
The Swish Pattern
The Swish Pattern is often the first Submodality pattern taught in introductory programs
and Practitioner training. It is designed both as a starting place to learn about how to use
basic Submodalities (size, brightness, location, association and dissociation) and how to
set up generative change. Generative change has a direction built into it, with nothing left
to chance or random outcomes. The Swish Pattern is used to create behavioral changes,
going from a present undesirable behavior to a future, desired replacement behavior,
Swish Pattern Steps
1. Choose a current behavior you would like to change.
2. Choose a replacement behavior.
3. Create a square picture of seeing yourself (dissociated) having the new behavior.
This picture should, when you look at it, give you the good feelings you will have
about yourself when you have made this change.
4. Create another square picture of seeing what it is that triggers the current behavior,
seeing through your own eyes (associated) and having the feelings that you now
have, when you have the old behavior. EXAMPLE: Seeing chocolate and feeling
hungry. Once you have this picture let it fade out (or do a break state) before going to
step 5.
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